There’s a special kind of pain that comes with heartbreak. It’s not just sadness but the hollowness in your chest when you wake up and remember they’re no longer a part of your life and moved on. It’s the silence in your phone, the change in your routine, the space they once filled that now feels empty. I know. When every song reminds you of them. It’s actually a sign of something deeply human and beautiful: You loved. You cared. You tried.
I’ve been there. Many of us have. It’s that space between feeling too much and not feeling anything at all. At first, the absence of pain might feel like relief. But over time, the silence becomes killing. Pain, reminds us that we are alive & that we care.
If you’re reading this while carrying a heartache, I want to say something that might sound strange:
Feeling hurt is still better than feeling nothing at all
After a breakup or any other heartache, you go numb. You stop crying not because you’re okay, but because you’ve cried everything out, You stop talking about them because your friends don’t know what else to say, While inside, you feel… NOTHING. But what we don’t always realise is that when we mute pain, we also mute joy, connection, and meaning.
The Moment you realise you weren’t feeling anymore 💔
You start functioning on autopilot. Nothing feels particularly bad… but nothing feels particularly good either. Then you laugh at jokes which you don’t find funny & smile at people you barely saw, and occupy yourself with distractions just to fill the empty space.
Then one day, you scroll through old photos—unfiltered moments of laughter, tears, and chaos—and a wave of sadness hits you. It will hurt, really hurt. But it will also be the first time in a long time that you felt something real.
And in that moment, you will understand : pain means your heart still works.
Pain a proof – Love Was Real ✨
It hurts so much now because it meant something. Your feelings were real, your memories are real, and what you gave was real even if it didn’t last the way you hoped.
You might be angry that it ended. Confused. Betrayed. Or you might miss them so much that it physically aches. All of that is valid and a part of the process. You’re not weak for feeling this. You’re ALIVE.
You’re Not Broken—Your Transformation 💫
Heartbreak feels like the end of something and yes it is. But it’s also the beginning of a new version of you. The version that learned how deeply you can love, where you know your boundaries much better now. The version that is still standing, even after falling apart.
The real goal is – To feel the hurt, move through it, and come out the other side softer, stronger, and wiser.
Pain has a purpose 🤕
I won’t pretend that time heals everything on its own. Feeling does. Grieving does. Letting yourself hurt does. It’s not easy, and it’s definitely not fast—but it is REAL.
So if your heart still stings when you think of them, if you cry when no one’s watching, if you’re tired of saying “I’m fine” when you’re not—just know this:
YOU ARE HEALING ❤️🩹
And in this moment, feeling hurt is better than feeling nothing at all—because your heart is still beating. Screaming, crying, and feeling so low that you can’t see a way out, feeling of wanting to be alone. Or feeling everything is over and unable to see ahead with a clear mind, at times distancing yourself from people because YOU NEED TIME FOR YOURSELF. It is okay. This healing matters most because sometimes we have to break into pieces so that we can rebuild ourself again. And one day, it’ll beat for something OR maybe even someone new.
But first, IT IS BEATING FOR YOU ❤️
