The SIZE of your WAIST has nothing to do with your WORTH!

This goes out to a very dear friend of mine who became a victim of body shaming. In fact, You, Me, Her and mostly everyone out there have been a victim of this at some point of time in our lives whether it is a guy or a girl. I, myself have many such experiences. 

The harsh reality is that the people around us, be it our family, friends, and relatives have been telling us how we look in a particular piece of clothing. They point out on being short in height or having a fat belly, thighs which are often called thunder thighs or simply being too fat or too thin. 

Does it make you feel you are not enough?

With the changing times, whether is it the television or magazines or even newspapers there are numerous advertisements on losing weight or hiding your imperfections. What you see this on television or read in magazines, majorly the photos are photoshopped making the model look absolutely perfect and flawless, be it her skin, hair, makeup or even the waist size. 

At that moment you want to question God as to why he made you this way. You try to analyze each and every inch of your body or skin which therefore makes you stressed, depressed and nothing can lift up your mood then. 

Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your BODY!

All my life I was thin, but after college, I was diagnosed with Thyroid. It made me gain a lot of weight. I won’t go far, my own relatives had commented on me for putting on weight without realizing that the weight I had gained was not because of eating but because of some medical issue. I used to get comments especially on social gatherings like, “Try to lose weight if you want to get married”, “If you lose weight you will look better”, “Why don’t you join the gym?”, “Start exercising!”,”What if the guy you go to meet is not okay with your weight or the family asks you to lose weight?” and the list really goes on. 

After years of listening to all those taunts. I first tried to forgive all those people for they have no clue how Karma will come and hit them for saying shit or doing body shaming. They did not realize that before pointing a finger at others they should make sure they were perfect. I lost a lot of weight not for them but myself and it was a slap on their faces. My husband truly and completely loves me the way I am and I am grateful to God for that. 

Curves or no curves! Love yourself!

When our loved ones, relatives, friends or outsider comments on our body weight, skin color or appearance it makes us feel sad and disheartened. Clearly, at that moment, we get angry and maybe don’t even feel like talking or meeting them again. Because we become so unhappy we try to attain goals that are often unrealistic. We try to starve ourselves or go on crash diets, which is not suitable for our body. It is sad, but true that those who are close to us, body shame us the most often. People actually can’t control themselves from commenting. It is cruel if you compare two people. Various disorders can happen or other health issues in the want of that perfect zero size body. 

With my own experience, I just want to say try to just love yourself and realize your self-worth. You are like this for a reason. Yes, it is inspirational to see people transform but what you don’t know is the number of deficiencies in the body that happen because of what they wanted to become. Don’t be too hard on yourself. As we know lifestyle change doesn’t happen in a day, it requires patience. 

“You don’t encourage people to take care of their body by telling them to hate it” 

Laci Green

People will never stop and always find a way to be after your life, constantly taunting and making you feel bad about yourself. 

• Whenever they do tell them upfront without any hesitation that no diet talk should be done in front of you. 
• To all the mothers out there, please do not teach your daughters to hate their bodies. 
• Try to avoid reading about all this on the internet. 
• You are way more important than that number on your weighing scale. 
• Be unique and special in your own sweet way. 
• You are beautiful, the color of your skin doesn’t change your nature or how you behave with people.
• Don’t listen to losers and be positive about your body. 
• Everyone has a different routine. The ones who comment on you, tell them to step in your shoes for a day. 
• Your mental health is way too important than to be sacrificed for a perfect body. 

“You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens”

Louise Hay